Is Your Self Worth Conditional?

 

Do you only like yourself when you're succeeding?

Do you only like yourself when you've accomplished something?

Do you berate yourself and say things to yourself like "Im so stupid I shouldn't have done that!" or "Of course, I would mess up again!"

If you said yes to any of these theres a good chance you see your self worth as conditional. You've been taught by your primary care give that you are "Good" when you are succeeding and accomplishing and that you are "Bad" when you make mistakes.

This mindset was useful as a child when your primary care giver wanted you to do well in school and when they wanted you to stay away from the stove because you would hurt yourself.

The issue with carrying this into adulthood is that now is that it causes you to only love yourself when you are doing well and dislike who you are when you are going through a tough time. I want you to know that you have worth because you are deserving of love and respect whether or not you are achieving your goals. Life is so short that you need to love yourself relentlessly through all your season in life. Life is about the up and downs and you are still amazing and thriving when you're struggling and making your way to a brighter chapter of your life.